On August 01, 2013 at 11:31AM, I learned: You can't be a YES man all the time. You can't always just agree with every solution/idea/proposal you hear -- even if it's from your boss. We avoid conflict because of its connotations. We want to avoid a fight, a verbal thrashing, a harsh look, the tension in the room.
My Mac's Dictionary defines conflict as "an incompatibility between two or more opinions, principles, or interests." The problem with avoiding conflict is in its absence there is typically an absence of opinions, principles, or interests which are the fuel of the decision-making engine. I'm not saying to look for a fight. I'm saying make sure you put your thoughts in the discussion. They may be incompatible, but how you deal with their adoption, rejection, being ignored -- or even stolen -- is how you deal with conflict. How we deal with conflict is what creates the fight, the verbal thrashing, the harsh look, the tense room not the conflict itself.
So create some conflict and deal with it like a professional.